A Teacher’s Guide on How to Build Relationships With Students

Educators know that positive student-teacher relationships are crucial to classroom success. But building them is sometimes easier said than done.

Research shows that even a few minutes of dedicated effort each day can help you develop relationships with your students that will help drive student success.

This article breaks down the benefits of good relationships with students and provides tips on how to build relationships in the classroom. Read on to find out more.

Table of Contents

• Why Do Teachers Need to Build Relationships with Students?
• How Do Teachers Build Relationships?
• How to Build Relationships with Students
• How Can Teachers Improve Student Relationships?
• 4 Benefits of Building Good Relationships with Students
• Learn How the Illuminate Solution Can Help with Building Student-Teacher Relationships

Why Do Teachers Need to Build Relationships with Students?

Positive relationships with their teachers are fundamental to student success. When students feel supported in the classroom, they are more engaged in learning and more likely to achieve better academic outcomes. They are also less likely to have behavioral problems.

Studies have shown that there are many positive results when students feel safe and understood. 

Some of the benefits of positive student-teacher relationships are that they:

• Build motivation
• Create safe spaces for learning
• Build new pathways for learning
• Improve student behavior
• And more

How Do Teachers Build Relationships?

So how do you build positive relationships with students? The best way teachers can build relationships in the classroom is simply by talking with their pupils. This not only helps you get a sense of their home life and any struggles you may need to be aware of, but it also helps you build the foundation for a strong relationship. 

A strong student-teacher relationship is the number one strategy in promoting positive student behavior and can go a long way in building resilience in students from challenging backgrounds.

How to Build Relationships with Students

A productive relationship between teachers and students requires that they have more positive interactions than negative ones. Researchers recommend that you follow the Magic Ratio, meaning that you have five positive interactions for every one negative interaction. 

Some examples of positive interactions with students could be:

• Asking about a new pet or sibling
• Commenting on a student's success in sports
• Complimenting a student's haircut

Many students who learn and think differently tend to have more negative interactions than positive ones. Think about a student who has ADHD and needs constant reminders to stay on task. This kind of situation presents a challenge when it comes to the Magic Ratio.

But that doesn’t mean you should never correct students or give reminders. You just need to make sure the positive outweighs the negative. When you get to know your students well, you’ll understand when they need encouragement or praise and when they are open to constructive feedback.

Connect 1-on-1

Every student can benefit from one-on-one time with their teacher, but especially those who demonstrate behavioral issues. When students can interact with just the teacher, they won’t feel the need to show off for others and will often be more open and honest.

A fantastic way to connect with students is to employ the 2 x 10 Strategy. This is when a teacher spends two minutes a day for ten days in a row talking to a student who needs support about anything positive.

This strategy helps teachers intentionally build relationships with students they may not have connected with before.

Show Interest in Students Outside of School or Behavior

Getting to know the student as a whole instead of just by their classroom performance will go a long way to helping build relationships. For instance, you can show that you want to know about the things they like to do or what interests them.

Have you ever met a child who was into Minecraft and didn’t want to spend hours talking about it? Me neither. Take advantage of that as a time to connect with the student.

Teachers can also consider attending student events.

A teacher’s time is precious, but investing moments here and there in going to student …

• • Competitions
  • Productions; and
  • Sporting events

…helps create a bond with your pupils and show them that they are important to you. The time you dedicate here helps reap many rewards in the classroom.

Get Creative With Seat Assignments

We know that seat assignments are an important part of a good classroom management plan. But they can also be a good way for you to get to know your students better—and for them to get to know each other.

For instance, if you have students sitting in table groups, you can use an online random seating chart generator to reassign them once a week, once a month, or whatever interval you decide.

Then each time students move to their new classroom homes, you can have them all answer a question for each other such as, “What food could you eat every day for the rest of your life and never get tired of it?” Circulate throughout the room and participate in the discussions to learn more and build connections with students.

Pay Attention to the Small Details

Even something as simple as learning a student’s name quickly and correctly can be part of the foundation of how to build a good relationship with your students. This shows each student that you value their identity.

Look for something to comment on like a new dress or a fun pair of shoes. This affirms to your students that you notice them as people—not numbers or grades.

Finding small ways to connect with your students can add up in big ways.

How Can Teachers Improve Student Relationships?

Students demonstrating challenging behavior may not be as open to the techniques we’ve discussed as a typical classroom student. Since these students tend to have a higher percentage of negative interactions with adults at school, they may not be as open to your initial attempts to communicate with them.

Here are some ways you can make an extra effort to build relationships with students demonstrating behavior issues:

• Find a time or place—sometimes away from the classroom is best—where you can have a positive discussion.
• Remind yourself to take notice of any good behaviors they exhibit—no matter how small—and mention them to the student.
• Don’t lose heart if they don’t seem to respond right away! Your message is being heard and will likely make a difference in the long run even if you don’t see the immediate effects.

4 Benefits of Building Good Relationships with Students

We know it’s important to develop relationships with students in the classroom. But what are the top benefits of doing so? Let’s explore that here.

#1: Building Connections With Students Is the Number One Strategy in Promoting Positive Student Behavior

Research shows that interactions with teachers, especially in early childhood, play an important role in shaping the behavior and social skills of students. Your students are likely mirroring your behavior—so the more positive interactions, the better!

We can look to neuroscience to find out why this happens. In a structure called the mirror-neuron system, when people observe an action the neural pathways that would be active if they actually performed it themselves are lit up. This means the brain is practicing the action it sees, which allows people to act more quickly than if they hadn’t seen it.

So how does this apply to the classroom? 

As you talk to your students, think about what behaviors and social skills you want to impart—and model those. Since children are more likely than adults to imitate behaviors they see, these positive relationships in the classroom will benefit your students and the environment as a whole.

#2: Positive Feedback Fosters Positive Relationships in the Classroom

When you have a positive interaction with a student or give them praise, their brain releases dopamine. This creates a cycle of positivity.

It works like this:

1. 1. You give positive feedback.
   2. The student's brain releases dopamine.
   3. The student feels good and wants to repeat that sensation.
   4. The student has more motivation to perform in such a way that will earn more praise.
   5. You give more praise...and the cycle repeats.

Taking the extra effort to ensure each student receives positive feedback throughout the day helps make your classroom environment more positive, safe, and conducive to learning.

#3: Positive Relationships Create Safe Spaces For Learning

If students are continually criticized for their failures, especially without also receiving more positive feedback, they’ll learn to be afraid to take risks in their learning. 

But risk-taking:

• • Empowers students
  • Increases self-esteem; and
  • Builds resilience to failure

So it’s important to build psychological safety for students. You can do this by praising the effort they made, as well as unpacking the outcome they achieved. Let them know that some things are hard and it’s okay to answer incorrectly or fail sometimes.

You can also model this by letting them see how you respond to your own failures.

#4: Good Relationships Offer New Opportunities for Learning

Let’s get back to the neuroscience we were discussing earlier. When unfamiliar material is taught, new neural pathways are formed to connect things the students already know with the new information. If they don’t understand the context or can’t  link the new material with something they know, they won’t understand the lesson as well. 

So how can having a better relationship with your students help with this?

You can use the deep knowledge you have of your students to connect learning material to their interests, hobbies, and backgrounds. But without investing dedicated time in getting to know the students in your class, you won’t have access to this valuable tool.

Learn How the Illuminate Solution Can Help With Building Student-Teacher Relationships

Illuminate Education offers tools to help you get to know the whole child, which will allow you to reap all the benefits you’ve just read about. 

Our system offers a single data view of the holistic whole child data picture, combining …

• Academic
• Social-emotional behavior (SEB)
• Intervention; and
• Qualitative

… data for each student for current and past years.

We also offer professional learning tools such as a resource library and webinars to give you great ideas on how to develop relationships with students and hundreds of other educational topics.

Contact us today and learn about the Illuminate Solution!

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